Thursday, June 23, 2005 Reflections
Margaret Carillo insisted my sister and I call her Nanny because she was never old enough to be a Grandmother. Well, this is a most elegant and formidable Nanny. She was born Domenica Giovaniello in New York City on March 15th, 1905, and for 100 years and 97 days she existed here.
I can’t begin to express our love for her. Thank you for your love and support during these days since our loss of her.
While our manner of departure still remains a mystery, the mystery of Nanny’s departure was solved on June 20th, 2005. Until then her presence never wavered, she was fully present in the fragility of consciousness, with hers as powerful as it had ever been, it being an authentic awareness of self-manifested wisdom and experience.
In terms of her age, because she was only a hundred, shrinking size can only go so far in consolidating the physical being, and the mind can only go so far in compensating for weakening senses. She spoke with me on Saturday, prophetically as it turned out. She was becoming restless and her body was not up to her plans. No one could take charge of her being, and when they tried, she rebelled. She remains a rebel to this day.
Energy is neither created nor destroyed, and on June 20th, hers dispersed, first into mom, her daughter, and now, we are all its recipients.
I had my whole life to take advantage of her, although having the greater benefit of actually getting to know her did eventually dawn on me. She could be selflessly generous, because she had the ability, willingness and natural organization skills to take care of her family without, and this she insisted upon, without burdening them. Her sensitivity to being a burden is outrageous even today.
Hers was a private presence, shared one person at a time, shared through us, and beholden to us, her family. Yet she was first and foremost her own lady. She took care of herself, and of us, too. We’re the echoes of her greatness.
Let’s acknowledge her presence in us, passing into others, as we will as well. Let’s welcome the release of her presence into the universe. The mystery of how her spirit will be released is solved, in time on Monday, June 20th, 2005, the end of spring on a full moon solstice day. Her spirit lives in Madeleine, Nicholas, Monica, Peter, Diana, Danny, Polar Bear. It is a responsibility and an inspiration for us as it blends with us, even as our generations echo what they were.
Thank you, Nanny. I love you. God, please help her adjust to her new presence in the universe.
posted by Peter 8:38 PM
August 30th, 2005
Y. Zevzal Realty
Associate, Landlord
Y. Zevzal 68-37 LLC
271 Madison Avenue, 22nd
Floor
New York, NY
10016
Attention:
Joseph Alpert, Partner
Re:
68-37 Yellowstone Boulevard, Apartment C20
Dear Mr. Alpert,
I am in receipt of your surprising notice of August 11th, 2005 addressed to me as a licensee of your 68-37 Yellowstone Boulevard Apartment C20. Noticeable in omission among the other Jane and John Does is the name, Madeleine Dizozza, the only child of your tenant and the only other resident in that apartment. Therefore, I enclose the form, “Notice to Owner of Family Members Residing with the Named Tenant In The Apartment who May be Entitled to Succession Rights/Protection From Eviction,” completed by Madeleine Dizozza for your file.
Although they do not like to admit it, Madeleine and her husband, Nicholas, my parents, are nearly 80 years old. This results in the reality that they are growing more suited to apartment living, and they need a place to live.
This is an authentic original apartment with a single tenancy since the construction of your building, and as such, deserves preservation. However, you have indicated that you must reoccupy to renovate it. Since you therefore deny your tenant’s daughter’s request to remain in your apartment at a reasonable rent that you would set, following the sudden death of her mother, please accept this letter and the enclosed form as her request to be put on your waiting list for a comparable apartment in your building when one becomes available.
It has been a bizarre summer since the death of my grandmother. The fact is: your tenant of sixty-three years, Margaret Carillo, died on June 20th, 2005 of a single blow to the lower left back of the head sustained on that same day. She was an independent individual who refused to be restricted to bed and would probably not have wanted to go in any other way. Furthermore, her age at death was one hundred.
However, please note that a blow to that precise location near the neck is fatal to all ages. It results in a coma as the under-skull fills with blood, pushing the brain through the brain stem, and there is no possibility of regaining consciousness.
Therefore, the fact that this accidental death to a healthy tenant occurred within the common hallway stairwell is, to say the least, unfortunate.
Anything you can do to assist Margaret’s daughter, Madeleine, will be greatly appreciated. Please contact Madeleine through me at this office with any comparable rental residences you may have available for her and my father, and please advise regarding expediting their status on your waiting list.
Thank you for taking the time to read this letter and for your kind attention to this matter.
Sincerely,
Peter Dizozza
Enclosure: DHC Notice, Ten Day Notice
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